Can our relationship be fixed?
Couples therapy for when trust is broken by an affair
If you were betrayed you might be feeling…
I am losing my mind, actually going crazy. Thoughts about the affair and the lies won't stop. I can't concentrate on anything.
I feel like a stupid, worthless chump. I NEVER should have trusted.
I can't imagine ever trusting this person again but I also really love them and that makes me feel like an idiot and a fool.
Do I know my partner at all? Do I know myself? How could I have missed the signs/been so wrong?
Does my partner even love me? How could they do this to me?
Am I worthy to be loved by anyone?
If you betrayed your partner you might be feeling…
I f****d up, I admit it, so why can't they see I'm really sorry?
I wish all this would go away
I feel like my partner is punishing me with their anger and their questions, why can't they see that I'm sorry already?
I want to stay together but not if I'm going to be in the doghouse for the rest of my life
I have no idea how to fix this and I hate feeling so powerless
My partner needs to see their part in this mess, I had good reasons to do what I did
Am I a bad person?
After an affair comes out it can feel like there are only two options:
1) Suck it up and stay together
2) Have some self-respect and get a divorce already
There is a third option: Rebuild trust and go deeper, together.
Don’t Wait.
Few people want to hear this but after an affair can be THE BEST time to build the relationship you truly want, with your person.
If you both do the work, you can:
-Wake up feeling trusting and connected.
-Enjoy being around each other and enjoy life again.
-Not accept bad behavior from each other.
-Not have to act normal around other people while hiding the fact that your marriage is crumbling, because your marriage isn't crumbling.
-Have a loving and healthy relationship.
